So many of us who have spent years to heal from the past, embrace our inner child, release false beliefs and express ourselves in healthy ways still find that romance is tough. In the twenty-five years I have been coaching and counseling singles and couples, the arena of primary romantic relationships tends to be the last vestige that still brings up dysfunctional dynamics. We still get caught in the fear of abandonment or engulfment – and continue to experience painful patterns that may show up with a different name, a different face or a different circumstance but the same dynamics over and over again.
My workshop Set the Stage to Find Your Ideal Mate takes on helping people to recognize these patterns & empowers them how they may begin to turn these patterns completely around – and draw in happy healthy love. Because it was so powerful for me, I’m going to write a little about my experience with presenting this workshop last night.
In the Calling in “The One” premises, the work of which this workshop is based upon, we recognize that life is not happening TO you, it’s happening THROUGH you. When we can see ourselves as the source of our “story” in love, we can step into the power to recreate our love experience – and even our lives.
Taking the Deep Dive…
Now, I began with being the guinea pig – and shared my “story” in love – and how the Calling in “The One” work had helped me turn all of this around. My story demonstrates how we can attach false meanings to previous painful experiences around love, particularly in childhood – and often come to believe something detrimental about our own selves. From such a false identity, a whole slew of false beliefs & ways of being can be born that wreak havoc in our adult intimate relationships.
My deep seated false belief that I only uncovered with the help of the powerful processes in the Calling in “The One” coaching program was that I was not only not good enough, but I was defective. Among other things, my love experiences were a merry go round of one-up-man-ship or one-down-man-ship to either prove I wasn’t defective or that I needed another “better than me” to save me. Invariably, these relationships always ended painfully. But, as I discovered what is really true about me, one by one, I was able to identify the false beliefs & ways of being that created those unwanted patterns – and turn them all around – and learn new skills that I had previously not even considered as needed.
So, we started to explore the participants painful patterns in love that we can use to sleuth out what might be the hidden false identity that we may still be unconsciously believing on some level.
The participants were amazingly willing to dive in and work in dyads to explore their patterns and their behavior that contributes to creating these patterns, including what false love identity may be generating such behavior. Once we can step into our true identity, we can then choose new ways of being and relating to demonstrate what is really true about ourselves!
And then, I guided people through a visioning exercise to really get to experience what it would be like to live from this new place – and experience an amazingly healthy joyful partnership with a beloved. We followed this with every one creating a powerful intention going forward to make such a vision a reality in their lives.
I then had the participants write down what they would have to give up and what they’d need to embrace to live in alignment with the intention of creating such a vision. We then followed this up with a release and embrace ceremony.
It was an honor & fulfilling experience for me to present this workshop to such an amazing group of people! This workshop was just a little taste of the transformational power of the Calling in “The One” seven steps. Thousands of people can testify that these steps have caused a huge shift in their love life.
When the workshop was over, I went over some details about my upcoming 8-week virtual Calling in “The One” course which begins on March 16th. This is a powerful way to prepare yourself to find your ideal mate and create a beautiful relationship together – as well as gain all of the support you may need to bring this about.
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